Depression and Anxiety
Often experienced together, depression and anxiety effect each individual in different ways.
Clinical Depression affects a persons thinking, energy, feelings, behaviour and sense of self. Clinical Depression is diagnosed through a team of mental health professionals, and if you feel that this is you you should contact your GP. The word depression is also used generally to describe someone feeling down.
Either way counselling can help you to come to terms with what is happening, exploring what is helping create these feelings, and allow you find resources within yourself to manage life more effectively.
Anxiety is used to describe the body’s reaction to threat, fear or danger. Physiologically adrenaline, cortisol and similar hormones are released. The body’s ability to regulate these or use these to it’s advantage can change or breakdown and can prevent you from taking part in some ordinary activities. For example: causing panic attacks or increased sensitivity. Anxiety Disorders can develop, which again are diagnosed through your GP and mental health team.
Cognitive Beavioural Therapy (CBT) can help you to change the patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours associated with depression and anxiety, and consequently reduce symptoms. Including relaxation techniques can help you to reduce the feelings of threat / fear and immediate physical symptoms.
Children and Young People
At any stage of our lives, our emotions can get muddled up. In childhood and adolescence, this presents often as a change in behaviour: for example, acting out, bullying / fighting with peers or siblings, breaking toys, withdrawal / isolation, self harm, suicidal thoughts. Please see the Children and Young People pages for more details on how I can help. (Coming Soon)
Suicidal Thoughts or Self Harm
Sometimes we can feel emotion and pai that we feel we cannot cope with it any longer. If you are feeling suicidal or are self harming, you may be feeling pain or hurt that you feel you cannot cope with. This can result in self harm behaviours or suicidal thoughts.
Self Harm behaviour, whether self injury (for example; cutting, hair pulling, scratching, burning among others) or self poisoning (for example drug or alcohol mis-use, consumption of other household chemicals), may feel like the only release or behaviour available to you.
The reasons may be current or can be long term, and self harm and suicidal thoughts can be traumatic and scary for you in themselves. Counselling can help you to communicate these feelings. It can also form a way in which you can regain control of your life.
Abuse can occur in any type of relationship, parent to child, child to parent, domestic relationship, professional to child / adult, any family relationship, working relationships to name only a few. Abuse can come in the form of psychological, emotional, sexual, physical, neglect, discrimination, financial and verbal abuse.
Abuse by its nature is secretive and therefore is can be very difficult for you to talk about. Therapy on abuse can include looking at the traumatic events which occurred, but more often involves looking at the feelings experienced at the time of abuse or now about past abuse. It is most important here to develop a trusting relationship. Elements of confidentiality is also an important element of this work. Please see Privacy Notice for limitations in confidentiality
Work and Financial Stress
Given that we spend much of our time at work and given recent years of recession, it is not surprising that more and more clients rate work or financial issues high on their list of stressors. Counselling can help you to be supported in pressures in the workplace, as well as help you to adapt to changes in circumstances.
Low Self-Esteem / Lack of Confidence
Low self esteem refers to having little belief in yourself and often results in clients feeling despairingly about their lives and prospects and can be an element of depression and risk of self harm and suicidal thoughts.
A lack of confidence on the other hand usually refers to activities that we feel we are not good at.
In both situations counselling can help clients build confidence for short term aims or look closely at feeling about our self worth, consequently building awareness of strengths and resources. Psychotherapy work on long term / childhood influences to low self worth can often be useful here.
Couples Counselling – Relationships and Separation
There are many stressors for couples in today’s society which put pressure on the couple relationship. Counselling can help couples to find what triggers difficulties in the relationship and find ways of changing these to improve the relationship. Counselling can also be useful where a couple has chosen to separate, to help the couple deal with the feelings of loss experienced in separation. This can be especially important where children are involved.
Student Counsellor Personal Therapy
Completing Personal Therapy as part of your counselling qualification can seem like a daunting prospect. Not only due to financial and time commitments, but also as it can sometimes feel like a box ticking exercise. However, I strongly believe that we can never know / learn everything about ourselves.
Personal therapy therefore, including all its difficulties as well as benefits, is an essential part of our self care and continuing development throughout our personal lives and professional careers. I believe it can encourage an openness to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses. It can give us an opportunity to explore the parts of ourselves that we are only beginning to see from being with clients and colleagues and their vulnerabilities. It can give us an insight into our professional and personal limitations, giving us the opportunity to learn how and when to take a step aside. These are only some of the benefits I have seen in personal therapy work. If you are eager and open to discovering whatever might be there within you, I would be honoured to take that journey with you.
Clients often seek support with feelings of loneliness. Different from the experience of being alone, which is often chosen, loneliness is felt in a deep sense and can be linked to feelings of worthlessness. Counselling can help you to see the differences between these, help support you in dealing with the feelings involved and help find ways of moving forward from these feelings.